The Four Tendencies

I love to listen to podcasts. I listen to the Grace sermon (since Will and I go to a different church right now), Rich Roll, Jess Lively, Nic Antoinette, Run to the Top, Highest Self podcast… and many many others. I’ll listen to them when I’m making lunch/dinner, folding laundry, but I mostly listen to them on my runs. I have tons of episodes downloaded on my phone – there’s too many good episodes out there! Recently, I listened to an episode with Gretchen Rubin. She wrote a new book, “The Four Tendencies,” and she was explaining it on the Good Life podcast.

I took this overview from her website, While you’re there, take the quiz and figure out what your tendency is!

The Four Tendencies concept deals with how people tend to respond to expectations: outer expectations (a deadline, a “request” from a sweetheart) and inner expectations (write a novel in your free time, keep a New Year’s resolution).

I am 100% a Questioner. Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense – essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations. I drive Will crazy with all my questions…

Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves. Will is an Obliger!

Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations. They’ll work themselves to exhaustion to meet deadlines.

Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike.

Gretchen Rubin even has YouTube videos that go into more detail on each tendency. I just think this kind of information is fascinating. It helps me understand myself and how I can come across to people. I really just ask questions so I can know! But it can feel like a barrage, I suppose.

Will is learning a song for his sister’s wedding on Saturday – Marry Me by Train!


I found a cute turtle on my run today!


Maggie tolerates baths 🙂


New plastic bottle for the nut milks at Yoga Bliss!


Green beans, spinach, and pan-seared tofu for dinner!


Verse of the Day:
– Hebrews 11:1
– Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

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